From the time we are born, we all seek to connect. Our most significant experiences of connection with others elicit some of our most important emotions – joy, delight, surprise, curiosity, and love when we feel connected…or pain, fear, sadness, grief, and shame when we do not. Paradoxically, the ways we’ve learned to cope with the pain of disconnection can often move us even further away from our partner. I help couples slow down and unpack these moments of disconnection & pain to repair and strengthen the bonds of intimacy & closeness and promote emotional safety, trust & openness.
You don’t have to face this alone. We all have seasons of life that can be difficult and painful. These are often the times we most need support from those around us. However, if we don’t get the help we need or are told there’s something “wrong” with us for what we’re feeling, we can become stuck, confused, and overwhelmed. As a therapist, I help clients undo aloneness, and we together cultivate a space safe enough to look at these difficult experiences to strengthen the places that feel broken inside and help discover the places in you where you’ve been strong all along.
“Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you.”
– Dr. Seuss
Planning for a lifetime together can be as stressful as it is joyful and exciting, as couples face the challenges of joining two futures together. When working with couples who are preparing for marriage, I often employ an approach similar to couples and family therapy. I am also certified in PREPARE/ENRICH, which helps couples to identify areas of strength in their relationship as well as areas of potential growth.
“Everything that we know and experience about ourselves, we understand within the context created by our relationships.”
– Neale Donald Walsch