Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
What is EFT?
It is a long-held cultural belief that it is okay for children to need the help of others to meet their emotional and relational needs. But healthy adults are to be self-sufficient and should not have strong emotions related to our need for closeness with our loved ones. However, we now know from research that the opposite is true. We humans are social beings who never outgrow our need for connection to those closest to us. And often, what lies at the heart of difficult moments of conflict in romantic relationships is the threat of emotional disconnection.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an empirically-validated model of couples’ therapy that developed alongside the growing science of adult attachment and bonding. Through this structured approach, I help couples slow-down and unpack difficult moments in their relationship to understand the emotional and relational needs at the heart of conflict. Then, together we craft new ways of talking about these moments that increase intimacy and closeness and begin to heal past wounds.